Constance is a relatively recent convert to the domestic discipline lifestyle. It’s not for everyone, but it’s for her, and she’s written the first part of a domestic discipline guide that includes her explanation of why she longed for domestic discipline:
What took me long time to understand was that, as a woman, I want to be submissive; I like to obey and I need a stronger, guiding power in my life. I want someone who cares for me, loves me, holds me dear, but also disciplines me and who is generally an anchor in my life.
Mark, and pretty much all the other men I meet before him, wanted an equal relationship. He really believed in the 50 / 50 share. And he never wanted to steer or guide my life, far from it. As a woman, and I’m 100% not the only one, I felt in this situation some kind of power vacuum. Nobody was leading.
[So] I became snarky, bratty, and so on. I regularly started arguments for the sake of getting angry. If a man just lets everything slide and doesn’t show me the borders, I lose my respect for him.
I needed my husband to discipline me, to control me, to steer me. That was the void I always had: no one steered me, yet I yearned it.
As a woman, personally I don’t want to lead. I want to follow. My husband, instead, is my leader. It’s the natural order (for me). He enforces his authority over me in whatever way he sees fit.
Link via Chross.