Spanking Blog: Adult Erotic Spanking At Its Best

If you’ve been around the spanko community any time at all, you’ll know there are a lot of girls who want a spanking but don’t know how to ask for one. Well, here’s one good way:

It took some time to get up the nerve, but I finally asked my husband to spank me. He is always willing to try new stuff so he tried it. At first it was okay, but not what I imagined. I think he was more afraid of hurting me than anything else. I assured him I would let him know if I was being hurt.

Over time the spanking kept showing up, but never like I had imagined it. That is, until the past few months. He now realizes that I really do enjoy to be spanked hard, and that if he gives me this pleasure, then he is in for a treat.

A few nights ago he wanted oral sex. I was okay with this but I wanted a spanking. I would suck for a few seconds then stop. Finally he asked what I wanted, and I told him a spanking. He did spank me! In return he said he got the most excellent blow job he had ever had! I am not one to swallow and had only done it once before but he got me so excited with the spanking that I just could not stop! Since that night he has spanked me several more times and I believe he has enjoyed it as well…if you get my meaning!

We men are reasonably simple creatures.

If I had to use a crayon, this is the crayon I would use:

Fortunately, there are much better tools.

Dan Savage, a kink-positive gay guy who writes the justly notorious “Savage Love” sex advice column, got the standard “How can I get my husband to spank me?” question:

I look at spanking pages on the Internet; it’s becoming a bit of an obsession. I asked my husband to spank me and he has, a couple of times. I’m afraid that if I tell him how much I like it, he’ll think I’m weird or freaky, but I’m also afraid of not getting the spankings I crave. How do I tell him? I asked him what his fantasies are, but he says he hasn’t got any. Is this possible? —Please Answer This

It’s entirely possible that your husband has no fantasies, PAT. The sexually frustrated, kinky person in a straight relationship is not always the husband or the boyfriend. Sometimes it’s the girlfriend or the wife. So you want spankings but you don’t want your husband to think you’re weird or freaky. Sorry, PAT, but that’s impossible. Until you take responsibility for your fetish—until you let your husband know just how weird and freaky you are—you’re never going to get the spankings you crave. So how do you tell him? Like this: “Remember those few times you spanked me? It was great. I loved it. It turned me on so much. I love being spanked. I want you to spank me on a semi-regular basis. And whenever you bend me over your knee and call me a bad girl and tan my ass good, I promise to fuck your freaking brains out. Is it a deal?”

I’d classify that as a brusque version of the standard answer: “Just ask him, and make sure he understands it’s gonna be well worth his while!”

However, I refuse to believe than any man has no fantasies. “I don’t have any fantasies” is code for “I’m afraid to tell you because you’ll think I’m sick and weird and you’ll never want to have sex with me again.”

Here’s an amusingly large wooden spoon, being put to its highest and best use:

Guaranteed to stir up a heartfelt desire to please!

Via Usenet.

…so use a cane, man!

Well, apparently that’s Master Marcus G’s plan. He writes:

She was on my sofa face down, watching TV, did not even know I was there until I slapped that nice arse, short skirt, NO stockings…. Her look was shock, so she did not know her first comment was MASTER !!!!!!!! She tried to get up, I was not having that, I quite liked her in that position, available and that arse….

And she had been warned she was to get the cane and being a clever Master I had one in the car…. Talk about surprise for a naughty slave. I was OK it did not hurt me one little bit, unlike that hand spanking, that’s twice now I have hurt me spanking her, and she laughs….

Gentlemen, be safe out there!

I had an entertaining conversation with Bethie last night about whether I spank her hard enough. It’s like this, see. She’s a very very good girl during her spankings; she doesn’t reach back with her hands, she doesn’t wiggle around or struggle much, or anything like that. So I like to tease her that I’m obviously not spanking hard enough, because she doesn’t wiggle.

This gets her jumping up and down in protest (which is worth the price of admission right there, let me tell you). Apparently she knew a guy once who was quite demanding about passive-and-compliant behavior during her spankings, so she has been “well trained” as she puts it. I assured her that I was talking about involuntary wiggling; and shared my theory that if I was spanking her right there should be some motion that was beyond her control.

Needless to say, she’s not at all impressed by my theory….