While working on projects like her SpankSeek spanking personals and spanko community site, Bethie encounters a lot of people at varying stages of kink acceptance. Many of them are so conflicted about their spanking fetish that they’ve tried to redefine it as “mainstream” or somehow “not kinky” … and they are so invested in the idea that spanking isn’t kinky that they take enormous umbrage at innocent questions like “Do you have any other kinks?” They’ll explode with “How DARE you! Spanking isn’t kinky! Why…” and go on like that that for six hundred words.
Thus, I really laughed and enjoyed this account by Ten of the way spanking was treated at a kink event called Fusion:
You see, I’m a spanko first and foremost. My fetish as long as I can remember was spanking… Over-the-knee, Domestic Discipline, Big/little roleplay– I love it all.
But I have other interests as well. Although they are probably not as pronounced fetishes, these things get me hot too: Bondage, other types of impact play, takedown scenes, sensation toys — and just plain being naked. I’m not a “spanking purist” and I enjoy much of the variety that the sharper side of pleasure can produce.
So imagine my surprise when, ironically, the only thing I really felt like doing at this all encompassing BDSM event was get spanked. Oh, and walk around naked. Maybe have an orgasm or two. As far as BDSM goes, however, I didn’t want to be taken into the depths of myself, transcending thresholds of pain until I was I was a human puddle of bruised flesh — only to come out of the other side feeling purified with a sense of catharsis and a renewed sense of strength and spirit.
Nope.
Honestly, I arrived and…
I just wanted my butt whacked.
So apparently I wasn’t all that kinky during this event. You see, spanking isn’t really all that kinky anymore. Let me explain.
There was an event called the “Wheel of Destiny” which can be summarized as kinky Wheel of Fortune. There were all kinds of ridiculous things on there, some kinky some not. Anal, punching, grappling, making out, electricity, piercing, cake (yes, a slice of cake), a hug, and a something my devious friend Graydancer called “Tar & Feathering” (where the tar was actually maple syrup) were among the list but I noticed that “spanking” wasn’t there.
When I asked about why my favorite fetish wasn’t present I was told the following:
“Oh, spanking isn’t really all that kinky. It’s like… the gateway fetish”.
That stuck with me. It made me think about the “spanking purists” I encountered. Were they not really all that kinky as well? Well, they get together in hotels and convention centers and slap each other’s butts so they’re a little kinky.
Ya think maybe? ;-)
The spanking blogs are all achirp about the new movie in which Kiera Knightly features as a woman who gets some spankings. Sadly, she almost turned down the role until she was promised the spankings would not be sexy, and of course they faked the whole thing during filming so her precious bottom would not be touched.
Chross has the details, but I noticed the story via Bondage Blog.
Hey, everybody, a couple of weeks ago I told you about SpankSeek, which is Bethie’s new matchmaking/personals and social networking site for adult spankos. Over the last couple of weeks Bethie has been testing and tuning the new site, and it’s accumulating quite a few members at a faster rate than she expected. So if you were waiting until there were more people to talk to, now would be a good time to have another look!
As a reminder, here’s what she said when she announced it on her blog:
SpankSeek is a matchmaking and social networking site for adult spankos. We have IM, chat, forums, blogs, games, walls, and you can upload photos and customize your profile in fun ways. I’ve put a lot of work into this site and it’s taken some resources to get it going but it’s done.
Like most partner search sites it’s free to join and keep a standard profile active, but if you upgrade to a paid membership (around $3/month) you’ll get access to the premium features. Right now I’m running a promotion; if you sign up before September 1st you’ll get 30 days free. I know, that’s only three days away so you better hurry!
If you miss the deadline don’t worry, during the first few months when you sign up you’ll get our free week long promotional membership. Our promotional memberships give you access to all our features so you get an idea of what the site has to offer. You’ll get a whole week to try it all out.
It looks like SpankSeek is off to a good start, so if you’re looking for spanko love or “just” for somebody who is fun to play with, why don’t you check it out?
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This sounds a little impractical, but it ought to be fun to watch:
The two women were brought to the center of the dais and stood facing one another. Slave attendants attached short chains that connected the two women’s ankles together and then snaprings that connected the outside of Gemma’s left knee to the inside of her opponent’s right knee and the inside of Gemma’s right knee to the other’s left knee’s outside. Each woman bent at the waist and had her left arm wrapped over her opponent’s back and tied tightly around her opponent’s waist. Now each had a clear view of the other’s butt. A heavy, short handled paddle was pressed into each contestant’s still free
right hand.The Master of Ceremonies took center stage after seeing to these preparations. “Ladies and Gentlemen, welcome to the final event of the Spring Games, the ‘big game’. Before we begin, we will allow our athletes a short time to properly warm up the muscles that will be used in our event today. The time limit will be two minutes. In that time, as many blows may be struck as the arm can hold up for.
From Domination Games.
Normally when a girl needs a spanking with a wooden coat hanger, she knows it — and doesn’t need to be chained down. But these images come, I think, from one of those 1970s “roughie” magazines where the storylines are fairly violent and scary.

Don’t forget to click those last two pictures for a larger view!
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A spot of wife spanking is never unwelcome:
Sadly, I can’t make out that artist’s signature. Found the image at Blossom And Thorn.
Update: Louis Malteste! Thanks, Chross.
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