The “Trade Links” Insult

Adele Haze has a How NOT to pitch to me for a link post up, with several excellent points. But I particularly like her first four sentences:

Look here.

If you write to me how much you like my blog, and then suggest to “swap links”, what it tells me is that you don’t like my blog all that much. If you did, you’d link to it, swap or not. False flattery makes me cross, and I don’t link to people when I’m cross.

That’s it. In a nutshell.

I’ve thought link swap offers were mildly insulting for years; way back in 2004 in an article full of adult blogging tips, I wrote, already weary:

If someone emails you about an “exchange of links”, but hasn’t put your own link up yet, they are telling you “I don’t think your site is good enough to link to, but I’ll do it anyway if you’ll link to me first.” Screw that. Half the time, even if you do put up the link, they never reciprocate. But the important point is: they don’t respect you enough to link to you. They only want your return link. Again, screw that.

Adele said it shorter and better.

Does Barak Obama Spank His Wife?

I have been amused for awhile to witness the sultry looks and suggestive gazes the Obamas exchange in public; it’s obvious to me that they are in love and still hot for each other, which is a refreshing change from the usual coldly formal political spousery you see in American politics. So I was doubly amused to see the video (with analysis) at Adele Haze’s blog, showing what to my eye is clearly a familiar smack that Barak aimed at Michelle’s bottom:

spanking michelle obama

Watching the video, you’ll see him pull the smack at the last moment and convert it to an equally-friendly pat on her lower back, but I have no personal doubt it was a nick-of-time “save” as he realized how many people were watching his incipient ass-smack. Other people don’t see it that way, but when it comes to celebrity spankings, Spanking Blog is a shameless tabloid — give me a rumor and a bad camera angle, and friends we have a story!

Of course, there’s no telling which of them does more of the spanking when the cameras are off, in the privacy of their bedroom; I, for one, have no difficulty imagining Michelle Obama in Halle Berry’s leather Catwoman outfit, only, doing a much better job with the whip:

catwoman with whip

Er, did I say that out loud?

Warning: No politics in the comments. None. Thank you.

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Prison Strap. Big One.

We have seen the photo before, at Corpun:

huge leather strap from a reform school for boys

But it’s better with commentary by Adele Haze:

So, my husband sends me this picture, with a caption: “What’s it worth not to send this photo on to Lupus?” [Adele was a model for Lupus at the time — Spankboss]

I think, the only rational response is, you don’t suggest any such implement to any company I’m ever likely to work with, and in return I won’t stick you with a fork. Somewhere it would hurt.

Seems to me you’d need to call the brute squad just to get that thing swinging.

Spanking Models And Body Hair

Reader Marie posted the following question about spanking porn in a comment, but since it was unrelated to the post, I thought I’d pull it up and give it its own post. Fair warning, it reads like one of the standard stereotypical feminist slams on porn generally, with the word “spanking” inserted. So I don’t know if Marie is a spanking aficionado or a regular reader of this blog — it’s possible this was just a drive-by attempt at consciousness raising. Without further ado:

This isn’t in relation to your latest post: it’s a rather large question I’d love to see ad dressed by the spanking community at large. WHY is it that almost all spanking porn requires women to shave their pubic hair? As a teacher who addresses feminist issues, I’m thrown by the presence of an insidious culture of fake female body types that our young men are growing up with: fake body types are their normalized erotic texts. Why is this acceptable? Why are females in spanking porn always depicted without pubic hair? This is just one more example of the commodification of female bodies in a way so retrograde of our embracing our own erotic fantasies and engaging with the normalization of them.

We are creating a new generation of men raised on internet porn who cannot encounter women with the normal bodily accoutraments nature gave us because of the tastes of the current crop of producers of pornography. Why must we perpetuate the notion that genital hair is so unacceptable as to be invisible in spanking porn?

I’ll start by dismissing the absolutes.

Question: “Why are females in spanking porn always depicted without pubic hair?”

Answer: They are not always so depicted. In evidence, I offer three exhibits, one of which was still visible on the front page of Spanking Blog when Marie posted her comment:

Marie’s comment is a dense bundle of intermingled questions, assertions, and assumptions, and I’ve got problems with many of the assumptions and assertions in particular. So I’m going to respond, in my own opinionated fashion, point by point.

Question: “WHY is it that almost all spanking porn requires women to shave their pubic hair?”

Answer: There’s an agency assertion here that I dispute. Having dismissed the “always” claim, I don’t have a problem agreeing that shaved pubic areas are predominant in spanking porn. However, I find the phrase “spanking porn requires” to be a very strange one. So far as I am aware, there isn’t a spanking porn standards body. Nor is porn an active agent. Spanking porn is a product in a market, and as everyone knows, requirements in markets are consumer requirements. If there’s a requirement here, it’s in the nature of a market preference by spanking porn consumers.

Statement: “As a teacher who addresses feminist issues, I’m thrown by the presence of an insidious culture of fake female body types that our young men are growing up with: fake body types are their normalized erotic texts.”

My reactions:

  • Insidious culture? What’s “insidious” about it? Insidious means “Working or spreading harmfully in a subtle or stealthy manner.” Shaved pussies are anything but subtle or stealthy, no?
  • How is a shaved pussy a “fake female body type”? With respect, Marie, who the hell are you to tell my girlfriend that she’s got a “fake female body type”? She shaves regularly and with extreme prejudice — her body hairs quail and tremble when they see her coming. She read your comment and recoiled in horror. Body hair? Her exact quote was “Ew, do not want! DO NOT WANT!” (She even plucks her eyebrows, which completely baffles me, but whatever – it’s her body, her hair, not my problem. From my perspective, shaving is just a girl thing, like the seven bottles of lotion without which it is apparently impossible for a woman to have clean skin.)
  • As for being “normalized erotic texts”, porn is fuel for the world of fantasy. In just the same way that a novel describes fictional situations, porn often describes and depicts women who are different in some way from the women, if any, actually available to the porn consumer. That’s part of what porn is for.

Question: “Why is this acceptable?”

Answer: Why not? The crusader for porn that’s more representational of female body types would surely bear the burden of establishing a problem with the use of fantastic images in porn. To me, that seems like a huge and insurmountable burden, given porn’s deliberate role as a fuel for fantasies.

Statement: “This is just one more example of the commodification of female bodies in a way so retrograde of our embracing our own erotic fantasies and engaging with the normalization of them.”

Reaction: This is too jargony for me to parse. I think I’d disagree with what’s being said if it were stated in plain English, though. It appears to have buried within it a laughable claim that some erotic fantasies are more appropriate than others. But I may be missing the point.

Statement: “We are creating a new generation of men raised on internet porn who cannot encounter women with the normal bodily accoutraments nature gave us because of the tastes of the current crop of producers of pornography.”

Reaction: Oh really? This strikes me as an unsupported claim plus a bit of false nature-worshiping plus another marginally-related bit of backwards economics.

  • First of all, it’s a giant logical leap from the probably true “consumers of porn are used to, and tend to enjoy, photographs without much body hair showing” to “such consumers cannot encounter women” who have body hair. That strikes me as unlikely; but, in any case, it would need to be established by more than bald assertion. {drumroll}
  • Second, I am detecting an unexamined exaltation of the natural. Humans are the monkeys who tinker. We change our environments, our diets, our physical landscapes, our pets, our crops, our sexual practices, and yes, our bodies, radically and massively, all the time, to suit ourselves. That’s natural, for us, because it’s our nature. Some of these changes have unfortunate secondary effects, but we have to engage those on their own merits and demerits. Just because “nature gave us” a thing is no reason to proscribe or critique the universal tendency to tinker with it.
  • Lastly, “because of the tastes of the current crop of producers of pornography” is breathtakingly backwards economics. Do we assume that people buy SUVs by the flatcar load “because of the tastes of” the automakers in Detroit and Japan? No, those automakers produce SUVs because of the tastes of the people who buy cars. People who disapprove of SUVs, like those who disapprove of shaved pussies, like to claim that the producers are cramming the product down our throats. But they make what people buy. Can they shape and influence consumer preferences? Sure. Or, at least, they can try. But all the actual power is at the point of spend.

Question: “Why must we perpetuate the notion that genital hair is so unacceptable as to be invisible in spanking porn?”

Answer: I don’t think that notion has been established.

OK, enough with the point by point. This isn’t, really, about spanking porn at all. This is a standard porn critique with the word “spanking” plugged in at a few key points. Now I’m going to share my own opinions on pubic hair in porn — porn generally, since I don’t see much difference between spanking porn and mainstream porn on this subject.

  • It’s true there isn’t a lot of pubic hair in visual porn. I think this is primarily a photographic / cinematographic issue with a side issue of porn economics. Porn is divided into soft core and hard core. Soft core doesn’t show genitals, and the models get paid less. You want to show genitals, you pay the models more. If you pay them more, you want to show what you paid for. Pubic hair is obscuring. Why would you pay to show something, and then leave it covered up? Answer: You wouldn’t, unless you were making fetish porn for people who specifically are aroused by the hair. Mainstream porn has lots of stuff aimed at body hair fetishists. Spanking porn tends not to, I suspect because targeting two fetishes at once is economically tricky.
  • The visible / covered issue with pubic hair may extend to the personal preferences of porn models, also. Some of the division between women who shave and women who don’t can be explained by how comfortable they are with concealing or not concealing their own genitals. Porn models are a self-selected group who are, obviously, more comfortable with exposure than folks who choose not to appear in porn. Perhaps, as a class, they are more likely to have shaved before seeking out work in porn? It would be interesting to hear from porn producers here. How many of your models are shaved when you start working with them, versus how many shaved at your request?
  • Shaving is a body modification choice. I shave my face because I don’t like all that stuff in front of my nose and around my mouth. I don’t shave my pubes because, frankly, it would be a hassle, I don’t feel a need, and nobody’s ever suggested they’d like it. Women make similar choices. Some shave, some don’t. Why? I’m sure it’s highly individual and highly personal. I don’t need to know. But I am an absolutist about individual choice. I know that early in the history of American feminism some women said “I’m not doing this for myself — I’m going to stop.” And they did, and that’s great. But then some of them said, in effect, “all women should stop shaving, none of them are doing it for themselves.” And that, in my view, was wrong. Complaints about shaved porn models have been a constant drumbeat from then to now. My mother used to say things like “real women aren’t shaved, only Barbie Dolls and porn stars are shaved.” That’s a hideously unjust attempt to constrain the real choices of real women, including — in this case — one I love. So, needless to say, I am against that sort of judgmental claptrap.

I’d be interested to hear the perspective of actual spanking models like Adele Haze, Niki Flynn, and Pandora Blake. Ladies?

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Why Model For Lupus?

Adele Haze has written a nice post explaining why she wanted to get her ass really well caned by the notorious Lupus Pictures people (whose work I’ve often displayed here courtesy of the Lupus Spanking website). In Why I Modelled For Lupus Pictures, she writes:

You see, neither back in my first days of furtive spanking-porn-browsing, nor now, have I managed to extract a grain of pleasure out of watching the punishment sequences that have become Lupus’s trademark. The harshness of the floggings, the marks and the screams tend to be too much for me; the occasional trickle of blood makes me cringe. The action scenes are supposed to be the focal point of any spanking video, and yet – unless I’m writing a review of the film – I usually watch them on fast-forward. Even knowing what I know about the safety and consensuality of the shooting process – even having been there and experienced it for myself – I don’t expect ever to grow to enjoy the results.

And yet, my appreciation of Lupus films has never wavered.

The recurring themes of individuals pitched against the powers that be – the state, the parental authority, the grotesque educational figures – and losing, always losing – appeal to the dark side of my kink. The camp, over-the-top comedies feed my nostalgia for a particular brand of Eastern European humour. The occasional supernatural plot pleases my inner geek, while the historical dramas satisfy my various costume fetishes.

There is also plenty of kinky content peripheral to the beatings that I can still enjoy – all the kneeling, all the ritual cruelties inflicted on the fictional schoolgirls, maids and prisoners. Until the first stroke falls, I am enthralled.

I have come to see having to hit fast-forward when the caning starts as a fair price for the wealth of kinky pleasures I get from the rest of the film.

My decision to take a role in a Lupus movie has followed a similar logic.

I don’t process pain as pleasure. I knew my caning would hurt a great deal, possibly more than any of my previous experiences. I did briefly wonder whether, caught up in the moment, I would find pleasure in my real-life flogging in a way I couldn’t enjoy some other girl’s filmed experience – and, pre-empting an upcoming post on the topic, no, I didn’t get any enjoyment out of the pain until it was all over – but, on the whole, I was prepared for a thoroughly uncomfortable several minutes over the famous bench.

And that was OK, because I knew – from studying the films, and from talking to Niki Flynn, who’d gone to that scary place before – that the rest of the shoot would give me the sort of pleasures that would make a few minutes of acute pain worth going through. For somebody who has a separate fetish for artistic suffering, working with a production on the scale of Lupus’s would be worth every stroke.

I had never before worked to a script, and I’d get that. I had never had somebody else think through the costume and make-up for me –I’d get that too, and in the end even the hideous pieces of reformatory wardrobe would turn out charming in their appropriateness. I had never before taken detailed direction, or shot completely – and confusingly – out of sequence, or acted in sets built for the purpose in every small detail; in short, I had never been a part of a spanking shoot run on such a professional level – and I knew that all of these experiences were mine for the taking.

Of course there’s more.

A bonus pair of Lupus Spanking pictures for you:

two girls pleading for mercy and not getting it

girl crying after a brutal caning while her sister or roommate waits in fear for her own spanking

Or, click this link to see all the Lupus Spanking posts on Spanking Blog.

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Spanking Industry History

Ed Lee, the evil genius behind the venerable Nu-West / Leda spanking porn empire, has begun to publish a memoir in the nature of a history of his companies. It’s an interesting read by a courageous man:

Nothing had really changed legally when I started Nu-West, and I was warned by everybody and his brother that I would be in trouble with the law if I dared to disseminate photos or real spankings or even fake spanking that looked real. That didn’t sit very well with me. I had done two tours in Vietnam and after what the government did to us there, I didn’t have too much respect for it or its moral standards. If Newsweek Magazine could run a front page picture of a little Vietnamese girl walking naked and crying after being napalmed. I sure as hell could show pictures of a half naked adult woman with a red ass.

I was determined not only to start a company that produced and disseminated photos of real spankings, but I would also do it openly. I wasn’t going to hide from anyone. This cost me a marriage and it caused the loss of a lot of friends who couldn’t understand why a respected and decorated First Sergeant of Marines could possibly go into such a shabby and dishonorable business. My answer to my Marine buddies who got on my case was, so it’s okay to kill other humans we don’t even know, like we did, but it’s not okay for me to produce picture of adults doing a little spanking? Fuck all of you.

Thanks to Adele Haze for the link.

Let Him Eat Cake

Birthday celebration, spanko style. Look at the evil gleam in Erica’s eye. You just know that forkful of cake isn’t going into her mouth:

a forkful of cake and an evil gleam in her eye

Thanks to Adele Haze for the link!