Dominance And “Poon”
Although there’s a lot of bullshit in the whole “pickup artist” subculture (just Google if you don’t know what I’m talking about) there are some areas where they stumble close to truths that sound familiar to anybody with experience of dominant/submissive relationships. Thus, for example, in The Sixteen Commandments of Poon, Roissy writes:
If you allow a woman to make the rules she will resent you with a seething contempt even a rapist cannot inspire. The strongest woman and the most strident feminist wants to be led by, and to submit to, a more powerful man. Polarity is the core of a healthy loving relationship. She does not want the prerogative to walk all over you with her capricious demands and mercurial moods. Her emotions are a hurricane, her soul a saboteur. Think of yourself as a bulwark against her tempest. When she grasps for a pillar to steady herself against the whipping winds or yearns for an authority figure to foil her worst instincts, it is you who has to be there… strong, solid, unshakeable and immovable.
As always, the problem with the PUAs is the problem of over-generalization. Truth, there are a lot of women who fit this description. ‘Nother truth: It ain’t all of ’em.
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Truth, there are a lot of women who fit this description. ‘Nother truth: It ain’t all of ‘em.
‘nother truth: the kinds of guys who read the poon sites aren’t looking for any of the other kinds. Sadly, still another truth is they rarely know how to deal with a proper spanko girl.
Hell, some days I don’t know how to deal with a proper spanko girl, and I’ve got one! :-)
I dunno about this. I’m married and a total switch. For the first few years of being a spanko I was the top. When my wife figured out I didn’t really care whose but was turning red the spanking relationship transitioned. Now she’s usually the administrator and I the recipient. She’s much happier in that role and enjoys it more. Every once in a while she’ll want a turn on bottom though. Shrug, like most things in life, nothing is written in stone and there are more shades of gray than black and white.