Spanking Blog Archive for November, 2009
Reader Questions About Whips And Canes And Switching
I got a nice letter from someone (we’ll call her “A” for “Anonymous” since she may not have intended her letter for publication) with several good questions that I was happy to answer. However, being as how there was a fair amount of time spent digging up caning links for her (which reminds me, Spanking Blog needs a search box) it seemed natural enough to publish her letter and turn the answer into a post. Here’s “A”:
Dear Spank Boss,
I was perusing your blog as I’ve done from time to time, for a few years now. I had a few questions for you, that you may or may not have covered before in your blog, and if you have, I apologize.
#1. Where would you recommend purchasing whips & crops from? I’ve purchased a few throughout the years, but they’ve always disappointed me with substandard quality….including one flogger that was merely glued together. And poorly glued at that!
That’s an easy one! The resource I always recommend for buying whips and crops is JT’s Stockroom — I’ve been buying from them for a decade and they are consistent in quality with excellent customer service. It’s sort of the “Honda” of kinky sex toys — not especially luxury or top of the line, but solidly built for a fair price. Their short-handled crop is a particular favorite of mine, and has seen hard use (especially since we lost the long one). I also have had good luck buying canes from them. Which leads us to the next and more interesting question:
#2. What resources would you recommend to novice caners? My husband & I have wanted to explore it, but we feel it’s ground that should be trod upon lightly.
My first irreverent thought is that maybe you should each get one of those “Don’t Panic” buttons from Hitchhiker’s Guide To The Galaxy. More seriously, a little caution is always smart, so sure, go slow, take it easy at first, make sure you’re not getting marked worse than you’re willing to live with.
But at the end of the day, the cane is just a little piece of dried shrubbery! And bottoms are very tough and resilient, so it’s extremely hard to do any lasting harm.
I should say, though — and this is advice I always chortle when giving — the person with the cane needs lots and lots of practice in order to control exactly where the cane lands and thus to make those pretty lattices of parallel marks. You don’t get that kind of control overnight, and you don’t get it practicing on a pillow (because pillows don’t wiggle!). Practice, practice, practice!
An aside for the gentlemen in the audience: If your female practice bottom objects to all the practice and suggests you should try a pillow, scoff. If she persists nonetheless, I have worked out the perfect compromise. Go and find her favorite teddy bear and offer to practice on that. She’ll be naked and upside down over the arm of your couch with her butt in the air faster than you can say “Swish!” (This is actually an exaggeration: with some girls you actually have to get lined up on the bear’s fuzzy little bottom before she really comes to believe you could be so cruel, and starts shucking her panties in sympathetic terror.)
Over the years, I’ve linked to a ton of good caning information. That last link actually presents a decent caning guide, the one where I got the teddy bear idea in fact. And here’s the post from my own first experience of caning Bethie — complete with rare Bethie pictures! But probably the best and most useful simple guide (especially if you disregard tip #1, heh) are Abel’s 12 Tips For Newbie Caners, which I blogged as Caning For Beginners.
What I like linking even better, though, are the blog posts by cane enthusiasts (even more fun when they are new converts and astonished to discover how much they enjoy being caned):
Unfortunately, in hunting down all those links I also was forced (oh, the hardships I endure for my loyal readers!) to wade through a bunch of the better caning porn that I’ve published over the years. I’d hate to waste all that search effort, so here are a few of the gems before I get back to the letter from “A”:
OK, back to the letter from “A”, this time in the realm of philosophy:
#3. And lastly, I know some persons don’t believe in the concept of the switch, but what is your position on this? And if you do believe they exist, would you know where I could find resources for that lifestyle and/or someone to talk to/ask questions about it?
I definitely believe in switches, especially when out of doors! And if you don’t believe me, just ask Bethie!
Oh, wait. That’s probably not what you meant.
If you’re asking about taking turns — sometimes swinging the cane, sometimes getting it — of course I believe in it, in the sense that I know lots of people like to switch. Sometimes it’s an omni-kinky sort of thing, sometimes it’s a way to play fair with your partner. Some people have both dominant and submissive fantasies, some people enjoy being sadistic and also enjoy pain sensations. Basically, if you can imagine it, somebody out there is doing it and loving every second.
You don’t see much of this on Spanking Blog because I, myself, am a big baby about pain when it’s my tender skin on the line. I do not like it, Sam I am. I have no interest in switching. The cane is for Bethie’s bottom in my house, and that’s that.
From the tone of the question, “A”, I fear you may have had an unpleasant encounter (perhaps on one of the kinky forums?) with the people I call “Absolute Categorizers”. There are folks who spend an enormous amount of time and energy trying to figure out exactly what sort of kinky they are, usually so they can carry on stigmatizing some other group of icky kinky people. (There are spankos who claim spanking isn’t BDSM for this reason, so they don’t have to admit to being kinky the way “those freaks” are.) You’ll often find Absolute Categorizers who are submissive women arguing about whether one of their number is a “True Slave” or a “Lifestyle Submissive” or a [fill in half a dozen other labels here]. These conversations can get quite vicious and competitive: “You’re not a True Slave because you blogged about refusing to give him a blowjob that one time, and you haven’t got a brand or a collar like I do…”
People like this will say “There’s no such thing as a switch” because they have a notion in their head about being a dominant or a submissive. It will usually be an absolute notion, like “you cannot submit to a punishment and still be a True Master” or “if you are Truly Submissive, you could never strike Your Master with a cane” or whatever. These rules are perfectly valid for the people who believe them, but that’s not good enough — they want these rules to be absolute. What about the woman who wakes up her man with a blowjob, wears her collar around the house all day, and then gives him a caning — at his request — when he gets home from work? Why, she’s a threat, because her very existence undermines whatever absolute rules the threatened person has dreamed up to make kinky life easier to handle.
Now, it would be my impression that perfectly-balanced switches (people who derive equal pleasure from dominance and submission, or from caning and being caned) are fairly rare. Most people tilt one way or another. But lots and lots of people enjoy both, in varying ratios, and there’s nothing even faintly unusual about that.
Wow, that’s enough blogging for the whole week! “A”, I hope this helped!
Posted by SpankBoss on November 30th, 2009 | 4 Comments »
Saturday Celebration Of Super Sore Bottoms
It seemed like a pleasant Saturday endeavor to go back and round up links to some of the prettier “really sore” bottoms from various Lupus Spanking galleries I’ve sampled here at Spanking Blog over the years:
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 28th, 2009 | 1 Comment »
Flogged In The Comfy Chair
Sometimes you just have to make a girl comfy, when you know you’re going to be flogging her for quite a while:
From Fucked and Bound.
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 27th, 2009 | No Comments »
The Return Of Thanksgiving Spankings
It’s been six long years since I first posted this picture on Thanksgiving, but the message of sharing and community fellowship never grows old:
Happy Thanksgiving!
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 26th, 2009 | No Comments »
Teacher Spanking
From Bad Tushy via Kinky Delight, a spot of classroom discipline:
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 25th, 2009 | No Comments »
Spanking In Silent Movies: A Clue
Google has turned up a silent movie spanking reference here that one of you movie-spanking hounds may want to hunt down and screen capture:
Yet audiences clamoured for her [Janet Gaynor] to be paired with the gangling [Charles] Farrell again and Borzage obliged with Lucky Star (1929), a part-talkie that has only recently been restored (albeit without its soundtrack) after years of neglect.
This time, Gaynor plays a country girl who thieves with impunity to keep body and soul together. But Farrell heartily disapproves of her behaviour and gives her a spanking after she swindles a man out of some money. Yet before Gaynor can succumb to such bluff charm, Farrell is dispatched to the Great War…
Update: I should have known. Another quick Google and I discover Chross’s movie spanking database already has an entry for Lucky Star, with a screen cap and a clip:
Posted by SpankBoss on November 24th, 2009 | 1 Comment »
Humiliating Spanking
She seems more worried by her lady friends who are pointing and laughing than she does by the ineffectual swats she’s getting:
This is from the cover of a pulp novel called “The Golden Dyke” as seen on alt. binaries. pictures. erotica. vintage.
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 23rd, 2009 | 1 Comment »
Unhappy Spanked Schoolgirl
It’s time for some more views of a spanked young lady who feels put upon by the world:
From this gallery at Girls Boarding School.
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 20th, 2009 | No Comments »
The Return Of “Should Wives Be Spanked?”
Almost six years ago (ye gods, just how long have I been at this?) I posted the cover of a pulpy magazine asking the cover story question: “Should wives be spanked? Men always ask.”
Well, good things come to those who wait. We’ve been waiting all this time, and now, finally, Darwination from Darwination Scans has posted a beautiful set of high-resolution scans from that magazine (Sensation, November 1939). In fact, he’s even got a link for downloading the entire magazine in .cbr (Comic Book Reader) format.
First, the cover (still shown here in radically reduced size, but this time when you click it, you can get a big version):
Inside, there’s another spanking illustration by the cover artist, one Charles Overman:
The cover article itself proved interesting enough to transcribe (this is the value added I’m adding to Darwination’s scans), with juicy details about the spanking habits of actor John Barrymore and how he got in trouble with his wife for spanking her too vigorously during a scene:
Should Wives Be Spanked?
By Lawrence Gould
Well Known Consulting Psychologist
If you are the average husband, there have been times when you’ve itched to give your wife a good, old-fashioned spanking. The chances are, everything considered, that you never actually did it, but I’ll guarantee you’ve wondered whether it would not have been a good idea. In some ways, it might, BUT–
Women — as I realize I am not the first man to note — are a funny proposition, though thanks to psychology, they are not quite as mysterious as they once were.
“I think Fred’s the nicest man I know”, said an attractive girl to me the other day. “We’re thoroughly congenial, and have marvelous times going out together, but I simply could not marry him. I can’t stand the way he lets me push him around.”
Being a psychologist, I skipped the obvious question: “What makes you push him around, then?” For my young friend was just showing one more facet of the age-old contradiction in the feminine mind which has probably done more than anything else to make a woman’s mental processes seem incomprehensible to the bewildered male.
You see, no matter what else she may want, the average girl wants to make sure the man she marries is essentially stronger than she is. The need is based equally on the atmosphere she was brought up in, and her own, originally childish wish for “somebody to depend on.” But the only way a girl can be sure of a man’s strength is to test it, which she generally does by finding out just how much she can get away with. Paradoxically, the less she succeeds, the harder she tries; and yet if she really succeeds, she loses all interest in the man who has been proved a weakling.
Naturally, girls have different ideas of what constitutes a strong man, but few of them have entirely out-grown the feeling that sheer physical superiority — demonstrable by force if necessary — lies at the bottom of it. And while the law does not permit this superiority to take the form of violence, as it once did ( the old common law allowed a man to beat his wive provided he used a stick “no bigger than his thumb”), there are few women for whom the idea of violence does not have at least a little fascination.
John Barrymore has his foibles, and there are four women, anyhow — the four wives who have sued him for divorce — who have sworn that he is pretty hard to live with. But so far as making a hit with the fair sex goes, not many men can match his record. And John never has made any secret of his readiness to “treat ‘em rough” when necessary. In fact, the immediate occasion for the break-up of his latest marriage was the spanking he gave Elaine Barrie in the last performance of the play, “My Dear Children,” in which they appeared together.
True, the spanking was ostensibly part of the business of the play — Barrymore, in the role of his wife’s stage father, was called on to use the oldest of all forms of discipline upon her — but this time he acted so over-convincingly that it was said Elaine had to choose her chair with caution for several days afterward. Not was this the first time he had “laid a hand” — or anyway, a foot — on her: she testified in a previous divorce suit that he had a way of kicking her under the table, even when they had guests, if she said or did things that annoyed him. Yet that evidently did not destroy his attraction for her, since she withdrew the suit and remained married to him for another two years.
Of course Barrymore is the soul of light-heartedness and normality, and never could be accused of being cruel for cruelty’s sake, but psychology has developed its own terms for those persons who derive a thrill from practicing or suffering violence, especially in love-making.
Those who have an urge to hurt the objects of their passion are called “sadists”, from a famous Frenchman, the Marquis de Sade; while those who (believe it or not!) derive the most intense pleasure from being hurt are called “masochists,” after a character in a morbid German novel. And though either of these types of abnormality is relatively rare in its extreme form, traces of them are found in most people. Most women, especially, show signs of some degree of masochism, sometimes in the rather obscure form of what is called a “martyr complex,” and sometimes in direct sensuous enjoyment of roughness or ruthlessness from the man they love.
“Jimmy” Cagney is another actor who found women are thrilled by rough treatment — it was a scene in which he threw a grapefruit at his wife at the breakfast table that made him the idol of the feminine move-goers, and inaugerated a new screen fashion. Though in fact, the fashion was not so new as they called it; before Cagney there was the original “Sheik,” Rudolph Valentino, whose subtly sadistic role, though acted by a man, was the creation of a woman author and reflected the innermost yearnings of millions of feminine hearts.
But where did this yearning come from?
Like most of our mental secrets, it goes back to childhood — to those first impressions of life which have such a powerful effect upon our mental processes forever after. As is now known, many, and perhaps most children learn a great deal about the so-called facts of life in their earliest years than their parents imagine. They pick up the information, partly from observing animals (this is true particularly of farm children) and partly from watching their fathers and mothers at times when they are supposed to be asleep, or “too young to take notice”. A lot of these observations seem to be forgotten as the children grow up, but that does not wipe out the impressions they created.
In particular, the average child’s impression of adult love-making is that it is an attack upon the female, in which the male is both ruthless, and apparently furious. Thus a girl — without the least idea why — may feel after she has grown up that a man who never “gets rough” or loses his temper is not a real man. Most girls, of course, would deny any such feeling, but the fascination of the caveman for most members of their sex proves its existence beyond question.
Some months ago I discussed the dangers of hypnotism with a world-famous psychiatrist, and he pointed out one danger which most people never thought of. “It is quite true,” he agreed, that even in the hypnotic trance a person will do nothing that is contrary to his essential nature, but, at least in her unconscious mind, the average woman has a wish to be ravished which an unprincipled man could easily take advantage of.” And while in most women this wish is so deeply buried they never know it exists, it often reveals its presence by the craving to be “mastered” — by violence, if necessary — by the man whom they love.
Certainly the converse impulse exists in men, and essentially for the same reason; but with us Americans it generally has been smothered more or less effectually by the years of “petticoat government” to which we are subjected, both in school and at home. At heart, most of us are too much in awe of our wives to be capable of showing violence toward them except under the stress of such overwhelming rage that we are likely to go to far with it. And the situation is still further complicated by the fact that theoretically the American woman is too busy trying to prove her equality with men to admit her masochistic yearnings — except in her choice of movie heros.
On the whole, then, while a lot of wives would probably be happier if their husbands gave them an occasional spanking, a psychologist can hardly recommend the practice. Except in the course of something like a psychoanalysis, the primitive feelings of both men and women are best left in the dark corners of the mind in which civilized life has confined them. As a modern husband, your best plan is probably to make your wife feel that you would not be afraid to spank her if you felt that she deserved it, but love her too much and are too chivalrous to do it except under extreme provocation. A hint of ruthlessness in love-making is another matter; the man who is too weak or too timid to achieve that will both disappoint his wife and frustrate part of his own manhood.
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 19th, 2009 | 2 Comments »
Rough Bondage Spanking
This is a really hot and brutal spanking scene from Fucked And Bound, right after Regan Reese has given Marcus London a blowjob (not that she had a lot of choice) and right before the anal sex scene:
Don’t forget to click that last one for a wallpaper sized version.
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 18th, 2009 | No Comments »
Public Spanking Protest
I am deeply indebted to Chross for word (and an accumulated gallery of documentary evidence) that a women’s organization called FEMENS held a “protest action in front of Ukraine’s Education Ministry in Kiev to denounce sexual harassment of students by some university professors in the country.”
Reuters coyly failed to mention that the “performance” included a host of over the knee (OTK) spankings!
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 17th, 2009 | 2 Comments »
Carribean Spanking Fantasies
There’s a column in the nature of an advice column in the Jamaica Observer, where the discussion turned to spanking fantasies recently:
The studies show that women fantasise about being spanked by their men, too. So even though they have taken corporal punishment out of the classroom, it is still alive and well in the bedroom. Why do you think those sex shops sell whips? It’s for the spanking sessions that women crave.
Now I’m sure they don’t mean those brutal whippings that occur in some countries when people break the law, but more of a gentle light whipping that tingles the skin, stimulates the nerve endings and brings pleasure. Yes, the saying is true, there is pleasure from pain… at least some pain. Talk to any masochist and you’ll hear of untold paroxysms of pleasure that they get from pain. “Oh Baby, slap me again.”
Many women would love it if their men would put them over their knees and give them a proper spanking, the studies show. Why do you think we have those schoolers’ parties, where grown women dress in uniforms like schoolgirls? It’s because they’re reliving the fantasies of their youth, and want to have men control, dominate and even spank them… lightly, of course.
They have “schoolers’ parties” in Jamaica? Who knew?
Posted by SpankBoss on November 17th, 2009 | 1 Comment »
Face Slapping
It’s a bit edgy to be sure, but I know some of you out there have a fetish for face slapping, and from time to time, Whipped Ass has a picture for you:
I am open to the suggestion that getting your face slapped may be even more distressing than usual when your head is restrained in such an unusual manner:
(The free gallery of this photoshoot also features an intimate use of a leather strap.)
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 13th, 2009 | 2 Comments »
Where’s The Ginger? A Cautionary Tale
I’ve written about figging before. As always when you’re putting stuff up your butt, it’s important to leave a large enough base when you carve the ginger. Figging.com has the story (complete with video!) of what happened when the folks at Kink.com didn’t quite get that right:
Anyway, I go to turn around, and I guess readjust or something, and all of a sudden, like, my asshole just [she makes a slurping noise] up the fig root. And I sort of realized what has just happened, and I’m like, I just did this, I ate the fig root, my ass just ate the fig root! So we stopped the shoot for a second, to try and figure out what we were going to do about this.
Story via Eros Blog, which offers an inappropriate song lyric to go with it.
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 13th, 2009 | No Comments »
Hard Caning And Agonized Faces
Aggressively welted bottoms are only to be expected at a site called Hard Caning, and they do have them in plenty as you would expect. But, as always, I’m at least as interested in the model’s agonized faces:
Do you see that lone tear on the cheek of the last girl? When Bethie does that, I accuse her of “squeezing it out” in a bid for sympathy. Which she is totally capable of.
By the way, it looks like Hard Caning exposes a large still photo gallery to the public (for free) as a marketing device, making their money on subscription sales for access to the movies. So, browsing their tour pages (where they show the available movies with a stills gallery for each one) is quite entertaining.
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 10th, 2009 | 1 Comment »
Kink-Friendly Hotel Design
I’d have to say it’s the acme of hospitality for a hotel to include a vase full of canes for the convenience of its kinky guests, as this hotel that Heron and Abel visited in Japan does:
Bethie and I actually once stayed in a brand new Hampton Inn that had a room vase full of dried bamboo stalks, but they were small and fragile and somewhat cracked-looking, under a coat of fragile-looking varnish. So, I let myself be talked into the proposition that it would do too much damage to the display to use the bamboo stalks for their divinely-intended purpose.
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 9th, 2009 | No Comments »
Riding Crop Spanking
Everything Butt is more enema fetish than spanking as a rule, but they do come up with some sweet spanking shots from time to time. Here’s Felony:
Don’t forget to click the pic for a larger version. ( source gallery )
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 7th, 2009 | No Comments »
Pussy Spanking In Kink Land
Since my post ten days or so ago about spanking opportunities in the new 3D Kink software, I haven’t made very much progress figuring out all the customization options. But, I have confirmed that the riding crop tool leaves reasonably convincing bruisy marks when you use it repeatedly on tender areas, and the virtual models can manage some fairly convincing painful grimaces:
But vice, like virtue, must have its rewards, else nobody would be doing it — and in this case, if the virtual models don’t get their orgasm rewards, you don’t earn “sex coins” to use buying more and fancier dildos, poses, and outfits. So it’s time for a vibrator (and a ball gag to keep the screaming level down):
I’ve made one abortive stab at figuring out the 3D Kink pose editor to see if I can create better spanking poses; it even looks possible to make custom animations linking custom poses in a way that would allow, say, an OTK spanking. But that’s an involved process, and I haven’t learned enough finesse yet to get results worth showing.
Update: Speaking of Kink Land, it turns out that’s the name of a new 3D Kink user community. Kink Land is just getting started, but it looks promising!
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 5th, 2009 | 4 Comments »
Whipping A Confession Out Of Her
This art is was painted by Norman Saunders in the 1960s for the Battle cards series, and was withdrawn from publication after unwelcome attention in the British House of Commons:
Posted by SpankBoss on November 4th, 2009 | 1 Comment »
Blasphemy! Cane them! Blasphemy!
You might think that it’s been awhile since allegations of blasphemy featured prominently in threatened legal proceedings. You might think that, but you’d be wrong.
If it’s true, as it seems to be, that these photos were taken in a working church without the permission of its owners and proprietor, I think we can righteously condemn the photographer as being — at least — a bit of a prat. But I confess, when I look at the photos, it’s not hard to imagine an alternate world in which they are the documentary record of a schoolgirl field-trip outing gone bad due to youthful high spirits and insufficient chaperonage:
Whatever the proper degree of condemnation for the photographer in our world, in that alternative fantasy world I think we all know what ought to happen to these young ladies for their blasphemous conduct. Just think, what would Abel do?
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 3rd, 2009 | 10 Comments »
Thrashed And Thrashing
I’m not sure I’ve ever seen hair fly like this:
Still is from the Firm Hand Spanking movie called Abuse of Authority.
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Posted by SpankBoss on November 1st, 2009 | 2 Comments »
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